Introduction
Imagine this, Anna is trying to find new ideas for a problem. So she asks her colleagues in a meeting for inputs. Marc happily shares an idea. But Bob answers: "Yeah but that won't work because..." Bob is frustrated because he finds that Marc isn't really being critical enough, and Marc is frustrated because Bob kills his creativity. You can't be creative and critical at the same time, or you don't do any of these things right.
It's as if someone asks you to juggle and at the same time do a complex math calculation. What will happen? You end up either by dropping a ball or by not being able to do the calculation right.
This story shows that we have to separate the mindsets during meeting in order to go forward and not be frustrated.
So here are three things you can do to avoid confusion and frustration during meetings:
Separate coming up with ideas and deciding
Separate the criteria when deciding
Mark the separation of mindsets